It’s difficult to accept that life goes on after we lose someone we love. Day to day tasks and routine seem almost impossible to accomplish. How can anyone expect us to function when it seems as though the whole world has stopped?
Life does go on and the responsibilities we have at home with our families and at work are still there. We may have huge support systems and help, but that lasts for awhile and it seems to fade away as busy lives continue. I remember feeling so dependent on my family when my mom’s health was failing. I wanted to talk to them and connect all the time because they understood how difficult it was to watch. They were always there for me and I am forever grateful.
But even with support, there came a point when I had to stand on my own two feet again.
There’s no guidebook for grief. No “how-to” for showing up when you feel completely empty inside.
Here’s what helped me survive the day-to-day:
1. Lower the bar.
Some days, getting out of bed is enough. Celebrate the small wins.
2. Protect your energy.
Say no when you need to. No explanations. No guilt.
3. Find small anchors.
A daily walk. A morning coffee. Music playing in the kitchen while making breakfast — key for me because the silence just amplified my sadness.
Tiny rituals that remind you the ground is still under your feet.
4. Keep them close.
Talk about them. Say their name. Laugh, cry, remember — it keeps them woven into your life and in your heart.
5. Let it be awkward.
People will say the wrong things. They mean well, but sometimes just don’t know what to say, and that’s ok.
You don’t “get over” grief. You carry it.
And somehow, you keep going — different, but still moving forward.
And that’s brave as hell. Give yourself grace. You deserve it.
