Missing your mom in midlife — and the moments that hit out of nowhere.
The other day, I had a thought that stopped me in my tracks.
My one birthday wish would be to have another TJ Maxx and lunch day with my mom.
That’s it.
Just one more ordinary afternoon doing what we used to do without thinking twice.
And then I cried. Like, really cried.
Life Doesn’t Pause
Because life keeps moving. The days fill up with to-dos, work, schedules, checking in on my boys at school…
Did you eat?
Are you sleeping enough?
Please wash your hands so you don’t get sick. (I can’t help it.)
And then out of nowhere, it hits.
I’m The Mom Now
I’m the mom now. I am my mom.
And suddenly, I want my own back.
Somewhere along the way, we become the ones doing the caring.
The ones holding everything together.
And most days, we’re okay.
The Missing Just Hits
But grief is strange. It doesn’t always show up on the big days or anniversaries.
Sometimes it shows up on a random Tuesday, in the middle of errands, when you realize how much you miss the person who used to feel like home.
When A Season Ends
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Putting Love Into Words Can Be Hard
This week, I filled out those “Just a Few Things I Love About You” books for my sons.
And it was both easy… and impossible.
Easy because I love them more than I can explain.
Impossible because how do you choose just one memory?
One moment you’re proud of?
Honestly, I’m proud just because they’re mine.
That kind of love is overwhelming in the best and hardest way.
Feeling It All
Maybe it’s hormones. Maybe it’s menopause. Maybe it’s just midlife.
But lately it feels like everything is circling around my head.
Laughter, then tears.
Worry, then relief.
Gratitude, then missing.
It’s a lot.
Can You Relate?
I know I can’t be the only one.
So, that’s where I am this week.
Missing my mom (and my Dad’s special Valentines). Loving my family. Feeling everything.
And wondering…
If you’ve ever been going through a completely normal day…
and suddenly felt that kind of missing hit you out of nowhere.
Last year, when I was missing my mom a little more than usual, I found it helped to write her a letter and get those emotional thoughts out. It may be helpful to you too.
If anything here resonates with you, I created something just for you. It’s a free guide called When a Season Ends, and it’s written for women who are navigating one of life’s quieter but harder transitions.
It’s not a checklist or a productivity plan. It’s an honest, heartfelt companion for the season you’re actually in.
